Coffee & Common Grounds

Some evenings, I catch a glimpse of us — plates in our laps, the TV humming with one of our favorite shows, the two of us tucked into our little corner of comfort. And the thought crosses my mind: Is this what we’re supposed to be doing?

Not because anything is wrong, but because sometimes the world — or the enemy — whispers that marriage has to look a certain way to be “godly.” That if we’re not the Cleavers from Leave It to Beaver, then somehow we’re missing the mark.

But then I look again.

I see us talking.

Laughing.

Pausing the show to tell each other something funny from the day.

Reminiscing.

Sharing the kind of quiet companionship that only grows from years of choosing each other.

And I realize… this is us.

And it’s good.

Our relationship wasn’t founded on perfection — it was founded on God’s plan for our lives, His grace, His timing, and His steady hand guiding two imperfect people toward His purpose. We’re not trying to perform. We’re not trying to impress. We’re simply living out the love He’s grown in us.

And honestly? Sometimes that love looks like microwave dinners and preheated leftovers.

Sometimes it looks like Oreos before bed.

Sometimes it looks like a show we’ve watched a dozen times because it makes us laugh the same way every single time.

But underneath all of that is something deeper — a marriage that shares Christ’s love and is pursuing His will, even in the ordinary moments.

Because holiness isn’t always loud.

Sometimes it’s quiet.

Sometimes it’s simple.

Sometimes it’s two people sitting side by side, choosing peace over pressure, presence over performance.

Deuteronomy 6 reminds us that faith is lived out in the everyday — “when you sit at home and when you walk along the road.” In other words, God meets us in the normal. He shapes us in the rhythms. He teaches us in the small things just as much as the big ones.

So if your marriage doesn’t look like a magazine cover or a 1950s sitcom, take a breath.

If your evenings look more like comfy clothes and reheated dinners than candlelit perfection, you’re in good company.

What matters is this:

Are you loving each other?

Are you growing?

Are you pursuing Christ together, even imperfectly?

Are you guarding your hearts from the lies that say you have to be something you’re not?

If so, then friend… you’re doing just fine.

This is us.

And God is right here in the middle of it.